You might decide that your spouse has already made up his mind. Maybe you are thinking that divorce is a done deal. But this could be a hasty judgement on your part. Try to control your spouse. Here, you might try to talk her out of leaving. You could try to make her feel guilty or tell her that she’ll never find someone who’ll love her like you do.
If your first reaction is to give up, you can decide to take a different approach instead. If a painter doesn’t like the colors he has initially picked, he paints over the canvas and selects different colors.
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A writer who doesn’t like the story she’s writing can decide to start a new story. So can you. I'll teach you ways to transform your self awareness in ways that'll help you react to stressful situations differently.
You don’t have to stay stuck in a way of reacting that isn’t working for you or helping your marriage.
This approach will almost always backfire on you. Declare open war. In your raging fury, you start telling anyone who’ll listen how you’ve been done wrong. You criticize your spouse loudly and often. This is a direct path to divorce. These approaches will not save your marriage. The fourth strategy is the one that works: Bounce Back Like a Rubber Ball. In this scenario, at first you are thrown off balance like everybody else. Your emotions rage like a storm. But then you recover your balance and you start taking proactive steps to recover your marriage. This is the strategy I’ll teach you. How You Choose to React Is Your Call But the Wrong Call Could End Your Marriage! It’s up to you to decide which of these approaches you want to follow.
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These are two very different reactions. And each response will produce its own very different outcome in a marriage. I'll show you how to reevaluate your reactions to get the results you want. Four Different Reactions to a Crisis Situation Which One Is Yours? There are four typical ways in which you might react when your spouse threatens to leave you: Give up.
If you’ve chosen a response but you’re not happy with the results you’re getting, you can choose to change your situation.
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It’s important to remember that you can choose to change your reaction anytime. Just decide to do so. You’re probably familiar with the saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll just get more of the same.” You always have the opportunity to decide how you will react to a situation.